One of the biggest problems an individual faces is ANGER.

Anger is powerful. It has the capacity to destroy. Anger is destructive power. Many lives have been torn down because of this anger. It may reveal its vicious head for a short period of time but its consequences will last forever. Broken families, bitter relationships, murder, vengeance, diseases are some of the byproducts of anger.

Someone said,  Control your anger before it controls you!

How true! Showing your anger doesn't mean that you are stronger than the other person. Instead it shows that you are fragile and can't handle your emotions effectively.

Anger is "an emotional state that varies in intensity from mild irritation to intense fury and rage," according to Charles Spielberger, PhD, a psychologist who specializes in the study of anger.

Anger is a normal emotion.

Anger and temper

Anger is an instinctive emotional response to frustration. Temper is the measure of how quickly you respond to your anger.

• Reasons for anger
• Disappointment
• Frustration
• Failures
• Disrespect
• Disapproval
• Misunderstanding
• Misjudgement

There is nothing abnormal about getting angry. But losing temper and aggression can cost you dearly.

People do get angry. Some express it in aggressive ways and some don't express openly but suppresses and become frustrated. Both ways are harmful.

Controlling anger and expressing it in positive ways requires focus and practice.

Try to answer these questions

• How do I react when I feel angry?
• Do I get angry so easily?
• How do I feel after I let out my anger?
• How do others feel when I am angry?
• How do I usually express my anger?
• Am I aware of the body symptoms when the pressure is building?
• Do I hurt myself when I am angry?
• Do I hurt others when I am angry?
• Do I know the anger buttons in my body?  Things that I don't like.
• Have I ever thought of controlling my anger?
• Must I do something about this problem?

When you feel angry, try the following pills:

' It is ok that I am angry. But is this situation worth my anger?'

' Could I have avoided the situation that angered me?'

' Whose mistake was it?'

' If it is mine, can I avoid it in future?'

' If it is others', how am I going to handle in future?'

Anger is ' temporary madness'.

Self realization is the best medicine to keep this feeling under your control.

• Don't make any decision when you are upset.
• Try to control your words or don't say anything.
• If is it is too much for you, walk away from the situation.
• Find a good friend and share your anger.
• Be aware of your anger buttons and symptoms.

Always remember, ANGER WILL LEAD TO DESTRUCTION.

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